This is no big deal. I can handle anything. I’m strong enough to deal with this issue. I just need to make a plan and move forward. Other people will let me down so I need to take care of this on my own. I’m an adult so I need to act like one. No hesitation. Now, I must determine what needs to be done to fix this situation. There are a few things or people I need to do certain things- so I must make them do what I want. When I want it. I just need a plan and move forward to get everything to work like I want it to. No room for failure. God helps those who help themselves, right?

I cannot count the times I ran through this type of thought process to get something done—have you done something similar?

A situation came up and I worked through how to mobilize and move forward—how to conquer this issue! One big thing was missing of course—I didn’t consult the Father for help or guidance or anything. Well, that’s not true. Usually after the situation had become worse then I would cry out in my despair for Him to fix the mess (again).

It didn’t occur to me to go to Him first. I mean, how weak and pathetic was I anyhow? What about “God helps those who help themselves”?
That saying is a direct lie that I let guide my thoughts way too many times! I used to think it was actually biblical (it’s not—don’t fall for it like I did!).

I’ve heard recurring comments during my life that I can now identify as destroying and untrue (but sometimes still hear it trying to grab my attention):
♦I’m too loud & too tall
♦God wouldn’t want me to be like I am—what a disappointment
♦Maybe one day I’ll be good enough
♦God loves me if I change

I took these comments to heart and usually exhausted myself trying to change and fit into what I thought everyone wanted (including God). I tried to be ‘good’, do better, work harder, say the right things in the right way (flat & fake usually), be more bold, be less bold, etc.

Once I have changed myself and those around me to fit into the mold I envisioned THEN I would be okay. Accepted. Approved of by everyone. Finally fitting in…

Never happened as you can guess.

The lies we let ourselves believe are life destroying. They seem innocent at the time…it’s just a thought anyhow so how could it be so damaging?

These lies are destroying and slowly we start to believe them. Someone recounted to me how God made us AND our voices. He loves to hear our voice raised to Him, coming to Him, looking to Him for all guidance. He loves it! He doesn’t say we’re too whiny, annoying or someone He just tolerates. He loves to have us lean on Him. WOW…I sure can let the lies pull me so far from truth sometimes.

I believed the lies so many times I couldn’t find my way out of the maze. I usually had a path of wreckage behind me so long it was overwhelming. Being stubborn and not wanting to ask for help, it took me longer than some to learn to give it up.

The Father didn’t give up pursuing me, taking me to places that were so messy & uncomfortable that I had nowhere to turn but to Him. These lies I’ve believed for so long still linger and whisper, especially in my weaker moments.

But now I know where to go-I line up the thoughts with truth from the Word. This is the measuring device and is able to point me in the right direction. Not to lies that destroy and breed self-doubt but to truth that delivers. Delivers me to a place of pure acceptance.

Thank you Father for not leaving me where I was but loving me enough to bring me closer to You!
Please help me to discern and silence the liar!